You’re busy. Good at what you do. And you get asked for lots of favors.
Information, advice, appearances (at events), endorsements. You get asked to share content, review proposals, add a link or authorize a guest post on your site.
All day, every day, people want something from you. If you’re not saying no to most of these requests, most of which are not a priority for you, you may not have time for the handful that are.
Not to mention time to get your own work done.
You delete most of the email offers and requests from people you don’t know. At least I hope you do. You are not obligated to reply.
But what do you do about a request that comes from a client, a colleague, or a friend?
How do you say no?
If they want your time, you can say, “Sorry, I have a prior commitment.” And that’s true. You have a commitment to spend that time doing client work, doing something for the handful of people you want to help, or doing something for yourself.
Because you’re no good to anyone if you’re not taking care of yourself.
What if the request isn’t time-bound? They want you to review their article, for example, and tell them what you think. No hurry. You could provide a cursory response. “Looks good. I like the donkey story.” A few minutes won’t break the bank.
But if what they ask requires more than a few minutes, or they ask you to do something you don’t want to do, you’re going to have to come up with something else.
The truth is a good option. If you’re uncomfortable doing something, if you don’t have time to do something, tell them. And tell them why.
You don’t want to hurt their feelings. You don’t want to come off as a jerk. But you have to say no to most requests because every time you say yes to something that’s not a priority, you say no to something that is.
Referrals should be one of your top priorities