Goals can be a demanding and unforgiving bitch. You do what you’re told, or rather what you said you would do, or there’s hell to pay.
Who needs that?
Yes, you want what you want, and yes, you’re willing to do the work to get it, but who needs an overseer? Who needs the pressure of “do or not do” when you might only want to try?
I write down my goals, but more and more I focus on something else. Something that helps me reach my goals without making my life miserable along the way.
Instead of focusing on the goal, I focus on the process. Instead of focusing on the results, I focus on the activity.
After all, it’s the activities that bring the results.
But to do the activities long enough (and get good at them) you have to find peace with the process. Or else you won’t stick with it. Or if you do, you might get the results but come to hate what you’re doing and burn out or get ulcers or ruin your marriage.
You can’t say, “Once I get what I want, I’ll be happy”. It doesn’t work that way. You have to be happy, first.
Author James Clear said,
“. . .if you look at the people who are consistently achieving their goals, you start to realize that it’s not the events or the results that make them different. It’s their commitment to the process. They fall in love with the daily practice, not the individual event. . . If you want to become significantly better at anything, you have to fall in love with the process of doing it. . . Fall in love with boredom. Fall in love with repetition and practice. Fall in love with the process of what you do and let the results take care of themselves.”
And they will take care of themselves. Or they won’t, but you’ll be happy nevertheless because you’re doing something you love.
Use this to create a simple plan (i.e., one that you will do)
